Within the relationship there will always be differing versions of “reality” so arguing over who is right and who is wrong or who did or did not do or say whatever - does not serve the relationship. Learn to let go of blaming, naming and shaming and move towards greater appreciation and intimacy.

 

We each bring our patterns of behaviour from our family of origin to our relationship and understanding how these patterns play out can help to resolve problems.

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Avoid disappointment by connecting deeply with yourself, discover your own needs and work towards meeting them. So often, we work at meeting their needs and then expect the other to do the same for us. This leads to the disappointment and unhappiness of unmet expectations.

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Issues of power and control can easily be resolved when both parties are supported to hear each other.

 

As each person develops a greater connection to themselves, their awareness increases and the harmony improves. Problems can be resolved with good relationship advice and the couple agreeing to let go of who is right and wrong in favour of moving towards greater harmony.

 

As well as providing psychotherapy from Sydney's Northern Beaches (Seaforth), Australia, I offer Skype sessions for couples around the world, and have found online marriage counselling to be very effective.